There has been a LOT going on lately and my head is very full of all the ‘adulting’ I have had to be doing which hasn’t left much time for me to sort through the things that have been happening.
Most important of all is the fact that we very unexpectedly lost my uncle a couple of weeks ago. He was very fit, he did have diabetes, but it was controlled by insulin and diet. Initial results (which my cousin received the night of his funeral) indicate a heart attack. He hadn’t even retired yet. The whole thing was way too sad and I cannot write too much about it because to be honest I haven’t dealt with my feelings about it yet. Everything during that time became about supporting my cousins and their kids and supporting my Mum and Dad and just getting done what had to be done. My Uncle was not a blood relative, he married my Mum’s sister, but he was best friends with my Dad from a very young age (apparently they pretty much lived in each others pockets from the age of 12 or 13) and my Dad met my Mum because of my Uncle. I would literally not exist if it were not for this man.
He was a wonderful person, he always made time for you and even after he moved interstate (if you were to drive it would take 20 hours) he would call often. He always reminded me of Robin Williams, a soulful person who was quick to smile, always had time for others, quite compassionate, true family man, worked too hard, loved deeply and had sparkly blue eyes. I still need to make time to feel my grief for him. I have certainly had my moments, the funeral was one of the hardest moments of my adult life. Though my family are somewhat spaced around the place now (Russia, Western Australia, Far North Queensland, Sydney, etc.) so we do not see each other as often as we would like we have true love for one another. When a member of a family like ours passes away, the funeral is a truly heavy thing. It is like thick grief soup. In saying that the wake was a celebration of his life, we ate, DRANK, shed some tears, laughed, hugged, shared stories and loved.
Other things that have been keeping me busy lately include house stuff, fertility stuff, work stuff, healthy living stuff, preparing to move and some other family stuff. I shall save these for another day though because I feel like my Uncle Peter deserves his own post. Love you Petie!
In the wake of his passing I have been thinking about how friends and family are such a vital part of our life and have been making an effort to get in touch with people I haven’t seen for awhile just to say, “hey, how you doing?”. I’d like to suggest you all contact one person today that you haven’t talked to in awhile. It might be two weeks, it might be two years, it cannot hurt to just send a quick text and say, “hey, just checking in. How you doing?
February 22nd, 2016 at 1:36 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t remember seeing anything about you losing someone on your Facebook, but of course you may not have mentioned it there. If you did, and I missed it, I’m truly sorry I didn’t acknowledge it. It’s so hard to lose someone you enjoy and respect, whether blood family or married in. I hope you and your family can find some peace in the coming weeks or months. *hugs*
February 22nd, 2016 at 2:53 pm
Thanks Amy. I didn’t mention it on Facebook initially because I think I was in shock and trying to deny it. Once I got up there and it was so real I didn’t actually check social media the entire time it was up there and then it almost felt wrong to write about it on there keeping it raw for everyone involved. So don’t worry you didn’t miss anything.
I don’t know about peace just yet, he is still in our thoughts a lot, but we are keeping ourselves quite busy. We are talking to our extended family a lot more and planning trips between states to spend more time with one another which is a wonderful thing. *HUGS* back at you 🙂
February 22nd, 2016 at 2:36 pm
Sorry to hear about your Uncle…
February 22nd, 2016 at 4:35 pm
Thank you. Big shock.
February 22nd, 2016 at 2:55 pm
Oh I am so sorry to hear this news. It is just beyond sad 😦 Sending lots of hugs xx Funnily enough I did text a friend I haven’t spoken to for awhile today. I will try to make that a more regular thing though. Great advice X
February 22nd, 2016 at 4:36 pm
Thank you. You never know what is going to happen. Thanks for the hugs 🙂
I think it is, life and work get in the way of keeping in touch sometimes.
February 22nd, 2016 at 4:46 pm
So sorry to hear you lost your uncle Petie! He sounds like he was a truly beautiful man. Big internet hugs! xxx
February 22nd, 2016 at 4:49 pm
Thanks so much Rosie. Such a shock. He was a wonderfully kind and loving man. I just keep thinking how lucky I was to have such a fantastic human as a relative.
February 22nd, 2016 at 5:28 pm
❤️😘 much love to you all. Beautiful post. You shared his soul sensitively.
February 22nd, 2016 at 8:59 pm
Sorry about your loss, my WordPress friend.